Love and attachment. Mothers and children are classic examples. Some
mothers see their job as preparing their kids to live in the big old
world. To be independent, to marry and have children of their own. To
live wherever they choose and do what makes them happy. That's love.
Others, and we all see them, cling to their children. Move to the same
city, the same neighborhood. Live through them. Stifle them. Manipulate,
use guilt-trips, cripple them by not teaching them to be independent.
It's not just mothers and children. It's friendships, marriages. Any
intimate relationship. Love wants the best for others. Attachment takes
hostages.
-- Louise Penny. [edited extract from]
The Cruelest Month: A Chief Inspector Gamache Novel (2008) Chapter 31.